Joe Nduti, a Kenyan man stationed in the United States military, posted a video on his Facebook page describing how his relationships with family and friends in Kenya have changed since he moved abroad.

He says months can pass without any contact from relatives, yet when they suspect he has money to send, they quickly reach out.

According to Nduti, once he stopped remitting funds, both family members and friends cut off communication, leaving him feeling completely alone.

He notes that many people back home assume that living in the United States automatically means wealth, and when that perception is challenged, their interest fades.

Nduti says he now has only one relative with whom he maintains contact, and even that relationship is limited to roughly two conversations a year, lacking depth or honesty.

The serviceman describes the emotional toll of feeling invisible to those closest to him, especially given the personal risks associated with his military role.

His story reflects a broader reality for many Kenyan diaspora members who feel valued primarily as financial resources rather than as individuals with their own struggles.